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posted by cupid on Jul 14

By Adam Michaels

Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

Long distance relationships are probably one of the hardest things to keep strong. I deal with this on a daily basis since my sister is involved in one. She keeps telling me how awful it is to see other couples holding hands, kissing, and otherwise just being happy together.

The jealousy and envy she has seeing other lovers together has made her question if long distance relationships really work. Of course they can. It solely relies on the two people involved. How bad do you want it to work?

Let’s Get You Started…

1. Communication is without a doubt the biggest factor in determining if the long distance relationship will survive. If it is taken for granted and not done on a daily basis, the flame will flicker out.

2. Mailing each other special gifts is always a good thing to do. The surprise of receiving something physical from your lover just puts a warm feeling in their heart. It doesn’t matter what it is. Send a card, some flowers from your garden, scented clothes with your cologne or perfume. This will help keep you “there” and give them something to constantly remind them of you.

3. Don’t be idle and keep wishing you were physically together. This will only torment you. You have to stay busy and involve yourself with activities. Whether it’s reading books, your favorite hobby, or creating a personal special gift you can send. Spend time with your family and friends. Just don’t sit and sulk.

4. The commitment factor in long distance relationships will eventually decide it’s fate. If both of you are totally committed to making this work, then the flame will stay alive until you are both together. The time apart is tough to deal with. But if you can past that and stay committed, you relationship will flourish.

5. Honesty and trust are two elements of the relationship that will play a large part in its success. You have to be upfront about everything. You can’t hide things from each other. Speak about anything and everything that’s on your mind. Sharing will build confidence and help the trust stay strong.

6. Being patient has to be the hardest thing to have to deal with. You know you will see each other again. Just don’t get hung up about counting the days, or watching the clock. This is where the strong will survive. By applying some of the tips mentioned here, time will go by and you will soon be in each other’s arms.

7. Finally, get out and have fun. Life is short. We all know that. By enjoying life and doing things that makes you happy, will keep your mind fresh and keep your soul alive. The hardships of long distance relationships are real. There’s no need to dwell on them. Live life. Enjoy life. Your lover will be with you soon and you won’t be envious of others anymore!

posted by cupid on Jul 14

Trying to have a long-distance relationship can be as easy as trying to maintain an elaborate up do in a windstorm. The reality is that you’re in for a lot of effort so get off on the right foot if you want to keep this relationship standing.

Review the situation.

The time period allotted for this romantic distance has to be something you can actually handle. If it’s a newer relationship and one of you will be gone for a while, it’s time to have “the talk” to see just how serious you both are about this relationship. If you’ve been committed to each other for a while, it’s all about how you deal with the time apart. If you’re someone who will turn to the company of strangers when left alone for longer than a month, then the problem isn’t with him, it’s with you. End the relationship now. Ripping off the bandage might hurt, but doing it slowly is worse. Read the rest of this entry »

posted by cupid on Jul 14

If you’re involved in a long distance romance, here are some tips to help it work!

It takes a special sort of person to make a long distance relationship work. The question, “Will this work?” is commonly asked. There’s no one, right answer. People have met and dated over thousands of miles and wound up soul mates. And people have met, dated over thousands of miles and wound up hurt and wounded.

Although there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style, those that can thrive in a long distance relationship see those hardships as strengths, too.

True, you don’t get to cuddle every night, you don’t have a shoulder to lean on, but what long distance relationships do provide many with are lasting relationships based on getting to know the person for who they are, not what they act like. Though it is important to know a person’s mannerisms firsthand, the edge of the relationship comes in the conversations via phone and e-mail. And the many cute things you can do to make the relationship work. Read the rest of this entry »