posted by cupid on Jul 19
I knew my man from an online dating site. It was quite funny, he told me that he’s been seeing me online for a month. Oh, he’s been checking me out, haha….
Well, I logged in all the time, but didn’t mean I was in front of my laptop every time I was online.
He made first contact through yahoo messenger. Question I asked first: his ID on the dating site. Then I straight went to see his profile, it wasn’t qualified my criteria, e.g. he didn’t put a picture there.
Next thing: I asked him to send his pictures. He sent me four: two were him, one was his mom’s picture, one was his family picture. From that, somehow I concluded that he’s got a warm close family which the same with mine.
We talked on the phone intensely for the next three days. I was having butterfly in my stomach. I was nervous. I was happy that he maybe the one, but I have never have had a serious thing with a man online. When he asked to get serious one week after our first contact, I backed off even though I felt sure about him. He was upset and told me that I should have not in the site because I wasn’t ready.
A week after that, something happened in my family and I saw him online so I contacted him then he called me. We made up.
This is not easy, we had fights and arguments, but we also had peaceful and loving moment as we learn about each other.
I learned how to do a long distance relationship from him. We then set up our rules so we can work things out. Our goal is, if God allows, to get married.
Communication. You are apart from your love one. You don’t know what’s he/she doing, how he/she expressed him/herself when they are happy or upset. Yes, I know….we are so eager to see each other, to see the smile on his/her face, to hold his hands, to hug, to kiss. So speak it out to your partner.
Patience. Understand that he/she will not be always there when we want to talk, when we want to call them. One thing made me worry was, we both live alone, his work requires him to drive all day. So what if something bad happens to one of us (God forbid!)? I gave him my sister’s mobile number in case he’s got bad feeling when he could not reach me.
Trust. Hey, if your goal is marrying this person, you both must trust each other. The trust will lead to opening up.
And to spice up the LDR, we sent emails and e-cards to surprise each other. We exchange gifts and a card attached to it. I got to see his hand writing (which was difficult to read fast, lol) and how he wrote the card with love.
He’ll come here soon. Oh, can’t wait to see my boo.
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